Aligned mindset & holistic well-being articles

Losing touch with yourself is easy in a world that praises productivity and performance. You tick the boxes, reach the milestones, and life looks like a success story from the outside.

Whist inside? Something feels… off.
There’s a quiet restlessness. A subtle burnout.
You were meant for more being.That’s where alignment with self comes in. It’s not a buzzword. It’s a lifeline. Let’s explore what it really means — and how to find your way back to you. How to align with your true self.

What Does It Mean to Be Aligned With Your True Self?

Your thoughts, emotions, values, and actions point in the same direction. It’s showing up as who you are. There are no masks, no performing and there is just you, fully expressed and deeply rooted, and you feel comfortable.

This is how you know you’re aligned, something I know too well:

• Your decisions feel clear and grounded.
• You no longer chase external validation.
• You feel energised, not drained, by your work and relationships.
• Success feels satisfying, beacause it’s soul-led, not stress-driven.

5 Ways to Align With Your True Self

1. Pause the Noise

The world is loud. Your inner voice can get lost between social media, expectations, and endless to-do lists.
Take intentional pauses — daily moments of silence, breathwork, or journaling. Create space for your soul to speak.

Your intuition can’t compete with constant noise. It needs to be quiet to be heard.

2. Ask the Right Questions

Sometimes we live years on autopilot without questioning:

“Is this right for me?”
“Am I living in alignment with my values?”
“What do I truly want now?”

You can change. Alignment means permitting yourself to evolve.

3. Notice Where You’re Out of Sync

Start with gentle awareness. Where in your life do you feel resistance or fatigue?
Often, misalignment shows up as:

• Saying yes, but you mean no
• Dreading tasks that used to excite you
• Feeling disconnected from your work or relationships

These are signs — not failures. They’re invitations to realign.

4. Reconnect With What Matters

Alignment is deeply personal. It starts with clarity about your values, priorities, and desires.
Ask yourself:

• What lights me up?
• What drains me?
• What do I want? and what I don’t want anymore?

Create a vision for your life and business that reflects the real you, not the version you created to survive or impress.

5. Live in Integrity With Your Truth

Once you’re clear on who you are, act from that place daily.
That means setting boundaries.
Saying no more often to protects your peace.
Choosing rest without guilt.
Creating a life and business that reflects your truth, not just your talents.

Your magnetic, powerful self is fully aligned with your truth.

My Thoughts

Are you feeling the nudge? Pay attention
It’s not a breakdown — it’s a breakthrough.
You’re not losing your way. You’re shedding what no longer suits you.

The most successful version of you isn’t the busiest.
She’s the most aligned.

Ready To Realign?

If this message speaks to your soul, I invite you to attend my upcoming free training, “From Burnout to Alignment:
DM me the word ALIGN on instagram and I’ll send you the details. OR for deep dive choose the best option for you.

Rise into the extraordinary life that was meant for you.

We’re often told to “know ourselves” — to dig deep, assess our abilities, understand our personality traits, and evaluate our skills. The idea is that by doing this, we’ll truly understand who we are. But is that enough? A journey to self-discovery begins with self-awareness.

You don’t just know this

Whenever we evaluate ourselves, we measure against some standard. Whether that’s an official benchmark like exam grades, a personal goal we’ve set, or even an expectation someone else has for us. Your standards can be pretty focused or more open-ended. For example, a narrow standard might aim to pass your driving test after falling short the first time. A journey of self discovery begins with awareness. On the other hand, a broader standard could be less defined, like striving to become more patient and tolerant. Both approaches have value, but you have to know what works best for you.

Self awareness is understanding and acceptance

To get you started, here are some simple evaluation you can start with to unlock your true self

Life Fulfilment: If life isn’t heading in the direction you want. It might be time for a broader look at what’s going wrong. By pinpointing where the discontent is coming from, you’ll have a more straightforward path to making things right. Explore my coaching programmes to get you statrted on your journey of self-discovery.

Health: Too often, we neglect our health, but keeping track of our health and well-being is key. If you’ve ignored minor issues, now’s the time to address them. Also, pay attention to your sleep patterns and nutrition—both can give clues about your feelings on a daily basis.

Happiness: When was the last time you truly felt happy and at peace with yourself? We all fall into habits that don’t serve us but understanding what truly brings joy can help to shift your focus to the things that matter most, light you up and energise you.

Career: Evaluating how things are going at work can illuminate our goals, strengths, and areas for improvement. Understanding these will help us grow and move forward with more clarity and focus.

Other Areas of life

Relationships: It’s easy to let a relationship drag on simply because the thought of ending it feels too overwhelming. But assessing what you truly want and need from a relationship can be a game changer, in both a romantic and a friendship. This can help you either improve the relationship you’re in or guide you to a future one that better suits you.

Finances: If you have big plans, like retiring early or getting on the property ladder, evaluating your finances can be eye-opening. Look for any overspending and check if your savings and investments are truly working for you.

Ethics: This can be a difficult one for many, but a good place to start is by reflecting on situations where you felt proud and at peace with the outcome. When you analyse those moments, you’ll uncover the core values that guide you — a solid foundation for your ethical approach to life.

Implicit Bias: The first thing is to acknowledge your own biases and educate yourself with a reading list or join a discussion group to do better. To dive deeper I will be writing more about this later on in the year.

At this point, I know you might be wondering why am I discussing these things. As aa aligned mindset and well-being strategist designer Total Well-being is multidimensional, we need all of the above and more to have a meaningful and a fulfilled life.

Ask yourself the right questions

It can feel overwhelming to know where to start with self-evaluation. But don’t worry — I’ve got some questions to help you delve a little deeper and get to know yourself better. Self awareness is a journey of self-discovery.

-What do I need most right now?
-Are my goals for the future achievable?
-Is my life in alignment with my values?
-Can I change my old habits to have most significant impact on my life?

Alongside these questions, journaling is a powerful tool for reflecting on where you are and where you wish to be. I’ve been journaling intermittently since my teens, and has been a constant part of my life for past twenty years. My style of journaling is spiritual, but you get to choose yours. If you haven’t started yet, I encourage you to begin journaling — it’s truly life-changing.

Taking time for self-reflection is an excellent way to check in with yourself, and identify areas that need adjustment. I do this about twice a year. You too can adopt this practice and witness how it transforms your life. You can apply to work with me.