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The journey to jellbeing, where ancient wisdom meets modern science. There’s a quiet revolution happening. More of us are turning inward. Slowing down. Listening deeply. We’re no longer chasing well-being like a finish line anymore; we’re learning to live it. And maybe, just maybe, the old sages knew something science is now confirming.

The Science of Stillness

The science of stillness is the secret. Seneca, the Stoic philosopher, was renowned for his inner calm and believed that well-being had nothing to do with external luxuries. We are seeing this today in society.  As a designer, I worked with some wealthy clients, but while they enjoyed their material advantages, some of them faced unique challenges that impacted their well-being. Back to Seneca, for him, it was a matter of spiritual clarity. As he wrote, “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste much of it.” He saw time, presence, and peace of mind as the ultimate wealth. I’m not sure if the modern materialistic society would agree with him here. The journey to well-being.

The Science Of Slow and the journey to well-being

Now, Neuroscience echoes Seneca’s quiet wisdom. According to research, only ten minutes of focused breathing per day can significantly reduce cortisol levels in high-achieving individuals, especially those experiencing burnout. Another study linked regular reflection (journaling and inner dialogue) with greater emotional resilience for long-term well-being.

It’s not just about what we do—it’s how and why we do it.

Science now confirms what ancient wisdom has long held to be true. Slowing down helps us think more clearly, feel more deeply, and connect better with others and with ourselves.

My Grief an Unexpected Guide

I didn’t choose this path, I was thrown onto it.
After losing my husband unexpectedly, everything I thought I knew about life, success, and even well-being was shattered. But in the silence of that sorrow, I heard something ancient. Not a scream. Not a solution. A whisper:
“Come back to yourself.” At that moment, I felt stillness.

The Grief stripped me bare. It taught me presence, not through meditation, but through mourning. It forced me to listen to my body, honour my emotions, and redefine what strength really means. I have become wiser through this hardship. Science agrees that post-traumatic growth is REAL. But only if we walk through it AWAKE. The journey to well-being.

Grief deepened my true well-being. And now I walk beside others who are ready to rise from their own ashes.

The Dance Between Adversity and joy

The dance between adversity and joy. Premeditatio malorum is a Stoic practice of mentally preparing for potential adverse events such as setbacks, losses and difficulties, allowing us to mentally rehearse how to cope with these events and build resilience. Today’s scientists refer to this practice as stress inoculation. It’s the same idea but not many practice this.  When we meet our challenges mindfully, we create inner strength. Pain doesn’t disappear, but we learn to hold it with grace.

The Dance Between Adversity and Joy captures something profound about how these seemingly opposite experiences interweave throughout our lives. It’s a complex choreography. Adversity often deepens our capacity for pleasure. The person who has known real hardship frequently experiences gratitude and delight more intensely than someone who has lived an easier life. 

Difficulty makes us more attuned to beauty, connection, and simple pleasures we might otherwise take for granted. Joy, meanwhile, can provide the resilience we need to face adversity. Those moments of connection, wonder, or contentment become anchors we can return to during difficult times. They remind us that life contains multitudes, that our current struggle is not the whole story.

Timing and Rhythm the journey to well-being

Sometimes, adversity and joy alternate in clear sequences, periods of challenge followed by relief and celebration. When my husband passed away, it was only a couple of weeks before my son’s eighteenth birthday. At other times, timing and rythym coexist, as when finding moments of laughter amidst grief or feeling deep gratitude even while going through hardship.

What’s intriguing is that they can transform each other. Adversity can crack us open in ways that allow for more profound joy, while joy can give us the courage to face challenges we might otherwise avoid. Neither erases the other, but each can change how we experience and integrate the other.

The dance suggests that rather than trying to maximise joy and minimise adversity, there might be wisdom in learning to move fluidly between them, to see adversity as training for the soul and finding meaning.

So, What does the journey to Wellbeing Journey Look Like?

It’s not a straight line. It’s a spiral. One can revisit the same lessons repeatedly, gaining a deeper understanding each time.

Here’s a gentle path forward:

1. Breathe before you begin.
   One minute of stillness can change the tone of an entire day.
2. Question your pace.
   Who are you rushing for? Slow is sacred.
3. Feel your feelings.
   Don’t bypass them. They’re sacred messengers.
4. Seek beauty in adversity.
   Ask: What is this moment teaching me about myself?
5. Design a life, not just a lifestyle. And don’t let the outside noise define your inside truth.

We suffer more in imagination than in reality. ~ Seneca

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Your path to wellbeing begins with one bold choice, to come home to yourself.
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